I’m so sorry. Your dad was a great guy and always treated me with kindness even when I didn’t deserve it. I’m grateful I got to reconnect with him a bit over the past 5 years or so.
1. Issues are never resolved People learn to either avoid conflict (and never deal with it) or learn they must always win the conflict and live with the fear of losing. Neither "all or nothing" ways of conflict resolution are helpful. 2. The degree of control is abnormal An analysis of family relationships in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology shows how some degree of control is normal, like setting curfews, asking them to dress appropriately, setting rules about phone use, snacks or meal times, and so on. But in dysfunctional families, the parents go far beyond the norm. They may try to control every aspect of their kids' lives, limiting socialization with peers, setting unreasonable rules, and never allowing their kids to have a voice in the home. Their kids will struggle to become independent adults. They may have a range of issues in adulthood, from poor attachment styles to profound self-doubt and problems with authority. — Gloria Brame, Ph.D., Therap...
I’m so sorry. Your dad was a great guy and always treated me with kindness even when I didn’t deserve it. I’m grateful I got to reconnect with him a bit over the past 5 years or so.
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